Discover Oneness's Guide to Self-love

You may already know what self-love is, but I am going to tell you anyway it is the regard for one's well-being and happiness. Self-love is all about treating yourself with the exact same concern, support, and kindness you would show to a friend. When you are faced with obstacles or difficult life struggles self-love teaches us to respond with compassion and kindness instead of passing self-judgment, it is about recognising that imperfections are a shared human experience.

More importantly, what is self-love to me? That is why you are all here, right? Well you are in luck I am going to tell you precisely that, AND I am going to give you a guide to self-love and how to practice it in your everyday life.

What does self-love mean to me?

To me, self-love means holding high regard for your happiness and well-being. It means taking care of your own needs and not always sacrificing your well-being to please other people. Self-love means you are not settling for less than you deserve. It is very similar to self-acceptance, and it involves self-understanding and the awareness of one's own strengths and weaknesses while embracing all of your flaws because boy don't we all have flaws. We are HUMAN, or so I like to tell myself.

This guide is going to give you a way of relating to yourself that does NOT involve judging or punishing yourself for every mistake that you make or every time someone is doing better than you. Self-love is known to reduce anxiety and depression, give you more optimism, and have a better recovery from stress. It can also give you better adherence to healthy and positive behaviour changes, such as diets or exercising.

My three facets of self-love

Mindfulness: keeping an open, non-judging, curious attitude; not overidentifying with negative stories about yourself. Self-kindness: Extending the same support and care you would for a loved one or good friend while treating yourself with kindness rather than being harsh and judgemental. Common humanity: Allowing yourself to be human, make mistakes, and learn from them. Understanding that we are humans are we are not perfect no should we act or be expected to act flawlessly.

I practice and teach self-love to everyone I know; I would teach animals if I could! I am always so amazed to see how much it transforms their relationship with themselves and how it promotes healthier ways of living. Self-love is proven to be far more effective when it comes to changing behaviour over motivation with self-criticism and shame. If you use self-criticism and shame, it will lead to your inner rebellion and cause you to give up, whereas self-love gives you hope and allows you to trust the process of change.

These are the eight self-love tips I highly recommend:

1. Recognise you are experiencing mental and emotional distress.