How Do You Deal With Negative People?

We all have someone in our lives who seems constantly negative - getting offended by small things, complaining, pessimistic and angry. 


This can be difficult and can drain your energy, speaking from personal experience when you are elevating and have overcome your negative thoughts the next battle is other peoples negativity projecting towards you. Their negativity can make you fall back into bad behavioural patterns to even turn your mind negative. 


One simple solution would be to cut these individuals out of your life. Yes, if you are unable to get to a healthy mental place due to them or if they are harming you in any way then cutting them off is the best option. That is the step you need to take in healing yourself. 


However, there are other options to consider too especially if you are in a place where you can focus on a place of growth within yourself beyond old patterns that do not serve you anymore. 

This is seeing the deliciousness in this negative person. It sounds weird but hear me out! Here is this person who is constantly complaining, being critical and they're in your life. Perhaps you care about them maybe they're a loved one or a family member. In truth, this person is most likely hurting themselves and I am sure you know what this feels like because right now you are hurting in the same way due to their actions. 


When this person is being critical towards you it can be painful and you may feel stressed due to the criticism. You may not notice that you're feeling this way but you do - otherwise, you wouldn't be frustrated by their actions/words. You are reacting to them in the same way that they're reacting to you - with negativity. You're both feeling this similar pain and you both reach back to old patterns of complaining, pain, and anger. 


The change MUST start with YOU right now!

So now that you see how their negativity affects you, you know you don't want to do the same to others. You can see that this negativity festers in them and it causes them to feel unhappy. 



A Practice For Negative People

Here are ways you may work with the energy of a negative person:

See the person's pain with compassion and love. If the person is being negative because they're in pain, stressed, unhappy or insecure. We have all felt these emotions at some point, so we know how it feels right? See this negativity as an old habit that is masking their pain. Can you now feel compassion for that pain, pain which you have also experienced?

See it as an old pattern that is unhelpful for them. Their pattern, when they feel this pain is to lash out, criticize and complain. At one point in their life, this may have helped them get through a difficult time but it is not serving them anymore. You can see with love and compassion that they're stuck in this old pattern. Then recognise that you as well as everyone else have old behavioural patterns that do not serve us but are hard to get rid of. By doing this, you are both connected. 

Feel nothing but love for them. If this person is a family member or a loved one, it is helpful, especially for them to pour out unconditional love out to them, even if you say nothing. Just feeling this in your heart is enough - they may feel that love even if you don't. Either way, the love will transform you allowing you to shift how you are behaving towards them (coming from a place of love). 


If this person is not a loved one